SNMag: What’s your go-to pick up line?
Jonathan Goldsmith: “Forgive me being presumptuous (a frequent preface to any approach), but would there be any chance of you bearing me a child?” Remember to smile. Or, “Hi. By any chance would you be interested in meeting a wealthy writer from Ibiza?” If she turns you down, tell her that he’ll be extremely disappointed when
he gets in from parking his car.

SNMag: What’s a great place to meet chicks?
JG: Supermarkets are excellent. Make sure to look lost and helpless. Ask her how to tell when the produce is ripe—you may get an invite for dinner. Otherwise, just pursue venues you’re interested in. Why not limit the field to someone with similar interests?
SNMag: What’s your rule about hitting on girls with boyfriends?
JG: Only if she gives you the okay – I look for innuendo – and, of course, only if he isn’t attired in a UFC shirt.
SNMag: What should a guy look for in a woman?
JG: Obviously, that is completely subjective. You should look for whatever is attractive to you.

SNMag: What are your turn-ons?
JG: A special twinkle and capriciousness and the ability to be flirtatious but always subtly. A sense of pride and self-assurance, humor and a sophisticated comportment. And, she can’t take herself too seriously. Strike all of the above if she’s a 36DD or more.
SNMag: What are your turn-offs?
JG: Coarseness and inane babble or cackling. I think it was Voltaire, or maybe Rousseau, who said (and this is not verbatim), “One way to guarantee being boring is to tell the whole story.” And dirty teeth can even nullify the double-Ds.
SNMag: What’s the best way for a guy to handle rejection?
JG: Although rejection is always an ego bump, it can be a gift in disguise and a learning discovery. We frequently take it initially as, “What’s wrong with me?” Why not turn that around? After all, it’s her loss as well.

SNMag: Do you think a girl should play hard to get?
JG: None of us should be too easily accessible too quickly. The pursuit is part of the fun and anticipation during courtship. Men, particularly, are hunters by nature. If the quarry is not a bit challenging, the conquest loses a bit of its value. Ordinary is forever less memorable.
SNMag: What’s the best way to ask a girl for her phone number?
JG: Ask her.
]SNMag: How many days should a guy wait to call a girl he’s into?
JG: If it seems right, why wait?

SNMag: What’s a sure fire way to impress a girl on a first date?
JG: Bring her flowers or a funny, charming book – perhaps relating to something in her sphere of vocation or interest. If going out, choose a different, perhaps unusual ethnic restaurant. Of course, if you know somebody with a sailboat, take advantage of that special ambiance. Arrange for dolphins to show just at sunset. At twilight, when the oil lamps are lit, she is yours! That always worked for me.
SNMag: Do you have any pre-date rituals you can share?
JG: Clean up and apply a special aftershave if your natural pheromone is not enough. Prepare the lair. Have flowers always. Scatter about some cool books and esoteric magazines, perhaps in a foreign language – as long as it’s not her foreign language. That could be embarrassing. Febreze the surroundings. Candles should always be scented. Have soft, classical music playing, unless the food is spicy—then a salsa or something more upbeat is called for. More flowers. If it’s your first date, have a buddy and his date over as well. She will be more comfortable. Obviously, he should leave early. Make sure to vacuum the couch of all dog hair. Remember to always be interesting – if you’re not, pretend. And by all means, stay thirsty for all possibilities. Remember the Boy Scouts’ motto: “Always be prepared.”

SNMag: Do you think a guy should always make the first move?
JG: Not necessarily, but if a few dates have gone by you’d better! The results could be very revealing.
SNMag: Do you have a special meal you cook for your special lady?
JG: Anything that is different that shows thought and care. If you can’t cook, pick something up at a nice restaurant and dump it in your own pot. As in all things, presentation is most important.
SNMag: What’s the best way to make a good first impression?
JG: Make her feel special. Carry yourself with self-assurance, and courtliness. Always be a gentleman. Share, but always listen.
SNMag: Would you date a woman who didn’t drink beer?
JG: It’s always about the person, not what they drink.
By Jillian Gordon
Photos by Bobby Quillard
Grooming by Sussy Campos
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