SNMag: What do you look for most in a guy?
Gretchen Rossi: A sense of humor, that is a must. If a guy doesn’t make me laugh then he’s out of there.
SNMag: What is your biggest turnoff?
GR: A guy that is just full of himself, who thinks his crap doesn’t stink, if you know what I mean. Because if someone is not able to make fun of themselves…it’s just…arrogance.
SNMag: What would be the perfect date?
GR: It depends on if we are doing casual or if we are going all out. If we are going all out then here in Newport Beach there is this gondola ride that goes through the harbor. And just to be with my guy and have somebody be romantic like that and have some wine and cheese and take me to a nice restaurant, maybe go for a walk on the beach.
SNMag: What’s the worst pickup line a guy has ever used on you?
GR: This guy was like, “So, are you tired?” and I said,“What? Am I tired?” and he was said, “Yeah, because you’ve been running around my head all day,” and I was just like “Are you kidding me right now?”
SNMag: How can a guy successfully impress a girl on a date?
GR: Pick the girl up, and make sure she’s comfortable. Also, it’s always so important that the guy opens your door for you. That is my first dead giveaway if a guy is a true gentleman. I think the biggest tip I can give people is to notice that the guy is the same with you as he is with every other woman in his life—whether it’s his sister, whether it’s his grandma, his mom, or just some lady just walking through the door.
SNMag: What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?
GR: You know, they kind of have to impress me first for me to even go out on a date with him, and by the time we are going out on a date it’s a good thing and the relationship normally lasts.
SNMag: What’s the best piece of love advice you’ve ever received?
GR: The best piece of love advice was from my parents who said, “No matter what, the relationship is never going to be 50/50” meaning that there might be a point in the relationship that things are 50/50, but overall it’s a give and take. It is going to be 90/10, sometimes it’s going to be 70/30.
SNMag: We know you are not against dating guys that are older than you — would you ever consider dating a guy who was younger?
GR: I wouldn’t say I would rule it out but I really am not attracted to young guys. They just don’t do it for
me. They’re very immature and I’ve always tended to date older guys than me. I would never rule it out, but
I haven’t met any younger guys that have really impressed me.
SNMag: What’s the best cure for a broken heart?
GR: Alcohol…No, I am just kidding. For me, there are a couple of things. I am a writer, so if I’ve had a broken heart, I write. Honestly, it’s also just having a good support system, having people around you that support you and love you and make sure that you don’t go into a downward spiral. The best piece of advice that I could give people is that no one can rob you of your joy.
SNMag: What’s the best revenge against an ex?
GR: To not even acknowledge what they are doing. Just to move on with your life and to be successful and to be happy.
SNMag: What’s a good opening line to talk to your crush or to get a guy’s attention?
GR: Giggle? No, I’m just kidding. Guys love the chase. Girls tend to fall goo-goo gaga head-overheels for a guy and guys don’t like that. Guys don’t want to know everything about you the first night you are together and you lay in bed and you just have diarrhea of the mouth and they learn everything about you. Give him a little taste and then walk away from it and kind of tease him.
SNMag: If you’re single, where’s a good place to meet guys?
GR: Not bars! Bars are just a big hookup joint. Guys are just looking for some hot girl to walk in and literally the guys all have bets over which one of them is going to get her in the sack that night. It’s not a good place to
find a serious relationship. The best place to meet a quality person is through people recommending somebody or setting you up through family friends or whatever it is. The bar situation is going to leave you with a broken heart.
SNMag: What do you do if your friends don’t like the person you’re dating?
GR: That has happened to me many times before, and it’s not just friends, it’s the entire community. You have to be true to yourself, and you have to decide what’s right for your life. But if it’s everybody around you or all the people you trust and love in your life, you really have to take heed to that. You have to step back and go, “Okay, what are they seeing that I’m not seeing?” because love is blind and it can really distort what is going on.
SNMag: Are you a firm believer in “chicks over dicks?” — that girls should always stick together when it comes to guys no matter what?
GR: I think that if somebody is truly in love with a person, especially when you get to a point of marriage, that is really your priority. I think there is a fine balance. When you are in college and you are with your girls, it makes more sense to stick together. When you get to my age, and are getting married, I think that kind of changes.
By Jillian Gordon